Before I met my husband, I used to love dancing. In fact there was nothing I enjoyed more than a good night out dancing. I suspect one of the reasons I loved it so much was that it made me feel quite sexy, and I could pick up like that *snap fingers* when I was dancing (and did).
Of course at the time I told myself, and others, that it wasn't about picking up, it was about having fun. Ha.
Now as an old married lady, I don't go out dancing anymore. After I met my husband and we started dating I didn't need to pick up anymore, so I made a concerted effort to not go out dancing, lest I make a boo-boo. I missed it a lot initially, and if we went out and dancing was on the cards, I was there. Some of our friends are still shocked apparently at us dancing at a wedding, must have been a bit full-on. I can't remember of course, I was smashed at the time (must be why I thought it was a good idea to get down and dirty on the dancefloor in front of wedding guests).
What's weird now though, is that I don't miss dancing at all anymore, and I'm quite happy not to dance now, even when the opportunity presents. I don't even really enjoy it all that much anymore I don't think.
I sometimes kind of find it annoying almost when other girls try to (literally) drag me onto the floor (no no, they are my friends). I still have a few friends that I love to dance with when they're around, you know how some people just get your dance style and you can dance with them regardless of the song? But even so, I'm happy to dance a couple of songs, and sit down. Used to be if it had a beat, I was up. There are still certain songs I almost HAVE to get up if they come on; Yeah by Usher (always makes me think of this certain girlfriend who I used to go out with a bit), Smooth by Santana and Rob Thomas (loved this song in high school), Rock this Party (everybody dance now) by Bob Sinclar, anything by Ricky Martin (*shame*). They all get my feet tapping. Anyone else have songs like that?
Am I getting boring? Too comfy? Perhaps I'm just prudish now?
Whay happened to my love of a boogie? I wonder if its perhaps that I'd just prefer a good chat with a glass of wine in a quiet corner, rather than three shots of tequila at the bar (so you keep your hands free) and onto the dancefloor.
To say "its because you're married" I think is too dismissive, but maybe that's it?
4 kindred spirits ~ This bugs them too!:
Nah, its just because you've evolved. I quite like a little boogie myself but see, I'm a horrid flirt. Luckily my hubby thinks its funny.
He will not dance. Period. We danced at our wedding, it was a terrible shuffle turn type thing and that's all I'm getting forever, apparently.
But if the purpose behind the dancing is because you looked damn hot doing it and the gentlemen cam a-flocking then perhaps now that you don't want the gents that you don't want to dance.
Much can be said about sitting about drinking.
I think it's a travesty you don't want to dance! But the even bigger crime is that awful r&B music that implies that sex is the only reason that people do or should want to dance! It's a bit sad to think you don't want to dance anymore by association....when clearly you do! (Wedding story...) You just don't want to go to a skanky top 40 club and get groped. Fair enough. Neither do I, and whilst I don't recommend alternative clubbing for you as there must be a big list of reasons you don't want to go, I still know there are heaps of places you can go where other people don't assume your presence is an automatic plea to be picked up. Some of these places are full of people off their tits which can be annoying, but as we've previously discovered it's not actually compulsory and additionally, it's possible to still have a good time while not joining the ranks.
OK, rant over. We need to get you out for a good night - I'm overdue myself :)
(As George Bernard Shaw once said, dancing is a vertical expression of a horizontal desire.)
... And how funy that you met your husband on a night where there was little-to-no dancing - especially at the RSL afterwards where it was hard convincing people to have 1 drink let alone multiple...
(P.S. You [former] tart!!)
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